Gift Giving

i usually don't give gifts just because I have to. I try to do a lot of thinking on things like what occasion, who, what gift, how they might feel about it etc. and at times when i do too much thinking I end up running out of time before a party and not buying any gift... i wish I could gift cash/credit so they could get whatever they wanted. but buying a gift shows that time, effort and thoughts you put-in for dear ones.


Occasions where people feel like it is mandate to gift something... coz u just can't go to a party and not take a gift. that makes me uncomfortable. hmph! Gift giving needs no special occasion or reason! it can be anytime one feels like expressing affection or feelings,


A gift should be a reflection of little bit of the giver and the receiver. well i don't want to use this as the reason why i missed giving gifts on certain occasions in the past. i may have been too busy, lazy or couldn't afford what i liked to gift. i try to make it up though :)

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Blooms said…
At times i feel like its a debt that i need to repay back as a return gift. Have u ever felt so?
6/27/15, 12:04 AM
Deepu said…
True, I do sometimes Blooms, especially when too many people have a say in planning an event.

But it seems to be trending since a while now. It has become a must have logistic though I am not huge fan of it.

And return gift concept is a borrowed western culture anyway... because in our country, the concept of inviting 'bandhu mitru saparivara sakutumbha sametham' existis. That is, one person is invited and a whole bunch of family and friends may show up.

In some countries, it is not the case. invitations are sent out very selectively, to people who really matter and who do care. Inviting hundreds and thousands just to show off and as a status symbol is usually up to the rich and famous:)

so different cultures have drawn out different traditions.

Planning for return gifts for me depends on the type of party and if I can afford sensibly or if i'd like to hand out a memorabilia of the event. :)
7/14/15, 2:44 PM
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