Mindblowing experience – A realization
Literally! Blew my mind away… feels like there were two different worlds… a world that felt normal to me and then a bizzaro world! US of A and then India.
i have penned down about a lot of ups and down in USA.. heres one, about a realization that occured after my Return to India. i wouldn't have probably felt it if not for my so long stay in the states away from India, relatives, hometown, country side, so called values, culture, traditions etcetera.
Temples, poojalu, abhishekalu, temple visit poojalu, abhishekalu and repeat… fastinglu, cold showerlu (challaneella snanala punyalu), daiva bhakthi, mogudi ki sevalu…
if not the above then the below
illu, vanta, vantillu, pinnigaru, akkayagaru and santha… cheeralu nagalu poolu animanigi undatalu ive adadaani abharanaalu
Ive adadaani prapancham… inkaaa… even this age …ee kalamo lo, ee 21st century lo …
Lol
so wat if it is 21st century
Some people some places never want to change, never want to widen their horizons, and never want to think rationally or be pratical.
They want to gain the benefits of new inventions and developments in terms comfort, pleasure, security and other materialistic needs but never want to grow in terms treating humans fair and equal.
Is it fear, insecurity, timidity or utter foolishness? While there exists, different treatment for people belonging to diff. region, family background, financial status, religion, caste, sub-caste and sub-sub-caste …
What is it about the female being considered as an inferior being?
How did the male chauvinism come into picture?
Forget about being treated as an object of sexuality, what about respect as an individual?
What is it about culture, tradition customs blah blah…
Why should the man be considered superior, in simple terms, can go out with friends, is raised rough and tough, is allowed to have a mind of his own, tastes of his own, choose his own.
Why is it normal for a man to be opinionated, independent, demanding?
Why a woman and a man can’t be considered equals and not differentiated as superior or inferior sexes.
I don’t want to debate about the biological or logical reasons that made the ‘men’ frame such rules only for women and none for the men! (so called traditional values, culture… blah!) in the ancient past.
Those were pre-historic times …
I can say confidently that we have moved on, made a lot of progress from the age of …
making fire using stones and twigs,
commuting using bullock carts or horses,
maintaining paper and stone manuscripts for records,
using the fields or outhouses for nature calls,
looking at the sunshade and clouds to predict time and weather…
Or have we not?
to the age of thermostats, conditioned air, 300 hp cars, super fast trains, paper towels, PCs, space probes, Web 2.0, GPS etc
Then, why are we stuck in rut in this matter?
Why has this become a topic of debate, huh, such dismay?
It is meaningless bull s$!# to use examples of extremities and worst case scenarios to argue and prove a pointless point.
--"Kokila… movie is not bad yaar... can’t stop laughin at some funny antics in the movie inspite of being in between penning down my feelings on this serious subject
wonder why it wasn’t a hit... bbl (be back later) – nov 15, 8.37 PM
it is nov 18, 8.37 PM. Wow, what a coincidence with the time. I am back to writin exactly after 36 hrs. I have traveled from rajamundry to annavaram to visakhapatnam and back to rajamundry in these 3 days. It was a hectic trip after my earlier trip to other side of godavari – narsapuram-palakollu and antharvedi. It was fun visiting the country side and the beautiful sceneries by the river! beautiful"--
So what was I writin about? Hmm…
yehh… male chauvinism!
Or rather female being considered a stayathome-fulltime_mom_slash_wife-childbearing-foodcooking-homecleaning-pleasuregiving-painreliever-lowmantainance-highperformace-thing??!!
So can’t a woman expect to be treated as fair, independent, individualistic, respected for her choices, time and space after marriage too just like before? Is that too much to expect? Shucks… wat am I doing? By writing the above 2 lines I just acknowledged the fact of “female being considered ……..-thing”.
Well, I am a woman and I have been a victim too… smaller or larger
If you think a woman is a powerless, weak creature; you must be kidding!
NO, you must be ignorant and my sympathies with you.
Else if, you do comprehend the potential and power of female and still consider her inferior, my sympathies with you.
I think this is what happened…
When you do not control the highly energized particles, when you do not direct the boundless power in an organized fashion, when you don’t tame the supremacy potential, you fear of devastating affect. And hence came the inferiority complex and thus the woman made to believe the weaker sex.
bottom line: values need not be wiped out nor entire constitution be rewritten, atleast follow'em with a (new) rational perception
old values with a new perception.
Disclaimer: this is nothing to do with any personal experience or about anyone in particular, just a generic realization I had through many of my experiences encountered after my return to India. While interacting with diff people, in diff places/positions/age groups, listening to their own versions of expectations from a woman, their opinions about hard and fast rules and regulations set for women.
i have penned down about a lot of ups and down in USA.. heres one, about a realization that occured after my Return to India. i wouldn't have probably felt it if not for my so long stay in the states away from India, relatives, hometown, country side, so called values, culture, traditions etcetera.
Temples, poojalu, abhishekalu, temple visit poojalu, abhishekalu and repeat… fastinglu, cold showerlu (challaneella snanala punyalu), daiva bhakthi, mogudi ki sevalu…
if not the above then the below
illu, vanta, vantillu, pinnigaru, akkayagaru and santha… cheeralu nagalu poolu animanigi undatalu ive adadaani abharanaalu
Ive adadaani prapancham… inkaaa… even this age …ee kalamo lo, ee 21st century lo …
Lol
so wat if it is 21st century
Some people some places never want to change, never want to widen their horizons, and never want to think rationally or be pratical.
They want to gain the benefits of new inventions and developments in terms comfort, pleasure, security and other materialistic needs but never want to grow in terms treating humans fair and equal.
Is it fear, insecurity, timidity or utter foolishness? While there exists, different treatment for people belonging to diff. region, family background, financial status, religion, caste, sub-caste and sub-sub-caste …
What is it about the female being considered as an inferior being?
How did the male chauvinism come into picture?
Forget about being treated as an object of sexuality, what about respect as an individual?
What is it about culture, tradition customs blah blah…
Why should the man be considered superior, in simple terms, can go out with friends, is raised rough and tough, is allowed to have a mind of his own, tastes of his own, choose his own.
Why is it normal for a man to be opinionated, independent, demanding?
Why a woman and a man can’t be considered equals and not differentiated as superior or inferior sexes.
I don’t want to debate about the biological or logical reasons that made the ‘men’ frame such rules only for women and none for the men! (so called traditional values, culture… blah!) in the ancient past.
Those were pre-historic times …
I can say confidently that we have moved on, made a lot of progress from the age of …
making fire using stones and twigs,
commuting using bullock carts or horses,
maintaining paper and stone manuscripts for records,
using the fields or outhouses for nature calls,
looking at the sunshade and clouds to predict time and weather…
Or have we not?
to the age of thermostats, conditioned air, 300 hp cars, super fast trains, paper towels, PCs, space probes, Web 2.0, GPS etc
Then, why are we stuck in rut in this matter?
Why has this become a topic of debate, huh, such dismay?
It is meaningless bull s$!# to use examples of extremities and worst case scenarios to argue and prove a pointless point.
--"Kokila… movie is not bad yaar... can’t stop laughin at some funny antics in the movie inspite of being in between penning down my feelings on this serious subject
wonder why it wasn’t a hit... bbl (be back later) – nov 15, 8.37 PM
it is nov 18, 8.37 PM. Wow, what a coincidence with the time. I am back to writin exactly after 36 hrs. I have traveled from rajamundry to annavaram to visakhapatnam and back to rajamundry in these 3 days. It was a hectic trip after my earlier trip to other side of godavari – narsapuram-palakollu and antharvedi. It was fun visiting the country side and the beautiful sceneries by the river! beautiful"--
So what was I writin about? Hmm…
yehh… male chauvinism!
Or rather female being considered a stayathome-fulltime_mom_slash_wife-childbearing-foodcooking-homecleaning-pleasuregiving-painreliever-lowmantainance-highperformace-thing??!!
So can’t a woman expect to be treated as fair, independent, individualistic, respected for her choices, time and space after marriage too just like before? Is that too much to expect? Shucks… wat am I doing? By writing the above 2 lines I just acknowledged the fact of “female being considered ……..-thing”.
Well, I am a woman and I have been a victim too… smaller or larger
If you think a woman is a powerless, weak creature; you must be kidding!
NO, you must be ignorant and my sympathies with you.
Else if, you do comprehend the potential and power of female and still consider her inferior, my sympathies with you.
I think this is what happened…
When you do not control the highly energized particles, when you do not direct the boundless power in an organized fashion, when you don’t tame the supremacy potential, you fear of devastating affect. And hence came the inferiority complex and thus the woman made to believe the weaker sex.
bottom line: values need not be wiped out nor entire constitution be rewritten, atleast follow'em with a (new) rational perception
old values with a new perception.
Disclaimer: this is nothing to do with any personal experience or about anyone in particular, just a generic realization I had through many of my experiences encountered after my return to India. While interacting with diff people, in diff places/positions/age groups, listening to their own versions of expectations from a woman, their opinions about hard and fast rules and regulations set for women.
Comments
exactly.. that is what i wrote, US is normal.. :)India feels abnormal in comparision
good for you!